Tag: Emotional

Scars

Scars come in many forms. We may have physical scars left from an accident or surgery. We may also have emotional scars left from the pain of loss, hurt, or embarrassment.

David Rossi says, “Scars show us where we have been; they do not dictate where we are going.”

Emotional scars have a profound impact on where we are in the present. Pain, hurt, or embarrassment often alter our view of the world around us.

We have a responsibility to ensure a better future for those we lead. God’s family provides a refuge for those who are hurting, and we have an opportunity to change where we are going.

Strong Leadership

We need to be strong in every area of life: physically, spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually.

Through the aging process we are all aware of the decline in our physical strength. There are times when a decline in emotional and intellectual strength also occurs.

The most frightening area connected to this decline in strength occurs in the spiritual realm.

Paul encourages Christians to “be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God” (Ep. 6:10-11).

Examining each piece of armor reveals a close relationship to God’s word. Our strength comes from what God provides through His word.

Adding Value

Leaders recognize that people are drawn to the idea of receiving something that adds value to their life.

From a leadership perspective, its serves us well to consider exactly what it is that adds value to the people we attempt to reach on a regular basis.

What areas add value in any culture or generation? Consider a few possibilities.

Physically: Regardless of the individual, providing for someone’s felt needs adds value.

Emotionally: When we demonstrate emotional intelligence toward others it adds value to their life.

Spiritually: The greatest value we add to someone’s life involves the spiritual connection with God.

Connection

Have you ever observed people at the mall, grocery store, bank, airport, or driving down the highway. Who are they? Where do they live? Where are they going? Are they married? Do they have children…grandchildren? Do they believe in God?

The questions are endless. The number of people in this world is mind boggling.

The only way to know anything about them is to get involved in their lives. It is a challenging step. How can we lead them to Jesus without this connection?

Leading anyone to Christ involves moving past our fear and getting connected. The emotional connection of genuine love makes all the difference.

Knowing Who We Lead

Is it possible to spiritually lead others without knowing them? Leaders must know their dreams, aspirations, hopes, and personal goals.

Years ago, a former boss told me, “If you take care of those under you, they will take care of you.”

A leader cannot look out for the well-being of people without knowing them.

Nothing is more important than knowing the needs of others and providing for those needs.

The four basic needs include physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual. Our culture generally uses this order. However, spiritual leaders understand the necessity of reversing it.

We must be given to meeting the spiritual needs of others.

Strong Leadership…

Strength applies to physical, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual areas of life.

Challenges occur when our strength declines, especially in the spiritual realm.

Perhaps we have seen or experienced personal struggles to remain spiritually strong and faithful.

During these times, Paul encourages Christians to “be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God” (Ep. 6:10-11).

Each piece of armor reveals a close relationship to God’s word. Our strength comes from what God provides us through His word.

His word helps us find the strength to lead others to our Lord.

Scars to Remember…

Most people have scars, maybe the result of surgery, an accident, or some foolish activity. At times we have emotional, mental, and spiritual scars left for the same reasons.

What do scars leave behind?

First, they remind us of what created the scar.
Second, scars remind us of physical, emotional or spiritual pain.
Third, scars show the incredible wisdom and power of God.
Fourth, scars remind us to be cautious about developing future scars.

However, the greatest reminder for leaders involves those left in the hands and feet of our Savior. These scars should always remind us of what our leadership is all about.

Leading in the Present…

The idea is about being present in the moment. It is challenging to provide good, spiritual leadership if we are not there when needed. 

But, we need to see something deeper in this idea of being present. 

Beyond the physical, the thought is one of being engaged intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually.

Leaders must be present, focused on the person and/or situation. To be physically present, but unengaged leaves the impression we do not care, we are distracted, or our priorities are not in the best interest of those we lead.

Be present, in that moment and give undivided attention to the other person.