Tag: Influence

Self-Awareness

The ability to be self-aware and self-evaluate is easier said than done. The difficulty exists in recognizing the inward truths that often escape reality.

Marianne Williamson said, “Take stock of your thoughts and behavior. Each night ask yourself, when were you negative when you could have been positive? When did you withhold love when you might have given it? When did you play a neurotic game instead of behaving in a powerful way? Use this process to self-correct.”

When we ask the kind of questions that challenge painful answers, we find ways to improve the influence of our leadership and help others follow with confidence.

The Destination

Time seems to move at incredible speed as we approach the last quarter of the year. As each day flies by, we must continue to evaluate our leadership and our influence on those who follow. Do we know where we are headed? If not, how will we know if or when we get there?

Ken Davis once said, “Aim at nothing and you will hit it every time. Know where you are going and you can take anyone with you.”

Others are following, and when we know the destination, we can point others in the right direction.

Looking Back

Rarely do we examine our time and influence in leadership. When you look back on 2024 consider a few questions.

Were you a good steward of your time in leadership?

Are the lives of others better because of your influence and example?

How many souls did you reach for Christ?

Are you accomplishing your goals for the year?

What changes would you make to improve your leadership?

These are a few of many we should ask as enter the final quarter of the year.

Look back and consider how you will set the stage for next year. Ask a few questions and make the needed adjustments.

Influential Reminders

Several years ago, I received a card from an elderly lady who lived in Washington State. I met her and her husband more than 25 years ago. I used to visit each week, as her husband’s health was failing.

After his death, we continued to visit and developed a wonderful friendship.

A few years later, her daughters moved her to Washington to be closer. Until her passing, I received several cards with notes, reminders of how much our friendship meant.

In leadership, it is noteworthy to maintain contact with those who have influenced our life.

It can be as simple as a card, a reminder of their impact.

Survey Says

Family Feud, a popular game show, hosts the famous line, “Survey Says…”

Contestants provide answers to questions nearest the most popular answers given by people who were surveyed.

When we consider our influence within our homes, what would the survey say is the priority of our life?

When we examine our character on the job, what would the survey say about our work ethic?

When we take into account our outreach to others, what would the survey say about the “type” of people we seek to influence?

There is value in surveying every area of life and measuring it by the example provided in Jesus.

A Kind Word

In the harshness of our present world, the power behind a kind word strengths the nature of leadership.

Speaking with kindness benefits every level of a leader’s influence. When a word is spoken with kindness several results occur.

The desire to achieve kindness benefits others.
The value or worth of the individual is raised to a level of importance.
The fruit of the Spirit develops into a more Christlike quality.
The goal of unity among brethren is exemplified.
The example of Christ’s sacrifice is characterized by our sacrifice.
The outreach to a world of non-Christians is built upon a foundation of love.

Ultimately, God is glorified.

Minimizing Negativity

We cannot completely avoid negativity. Sadly, we are surrounded by it. We often face so much negativity it is difficult to see much positive.

Since, we cannot avoid negativity, what can we do to limit its influence, or put a positive spin on it?

First, prayer is where it all starts. God promises to answer, so why not begin at His throne.

Second, focus on spending time with people who are positive.

Third, the material we read and the messages we hear need to ring with optimism. Turning off the television is a positive beginning point.

Fourth, commit to saying at least five positive things every day.

Decision-Making

Each day is filled with decision-making. Sometimes decisions are quick and easy to make. Other times they are difficult and require a great deal more thought.

We would understand that many decisions have little consequence: what to eat for breakfast, what clothes to wear, etc.

Other decisions, however, carry great consequence: the choice of a spouse, where we live, our occupation, raising children, etc.

There is one decision that is extremely consequential and that is the decision to follow Christ. This one decision should be the foundation for all decisions.

Determine how your decisions will influence others and if it will lead them to Christ.

Compassion

One of the qualities Jesus demonstrated, instrumental in drawing others to Him, was compassion.

Several times throughout the gospels, the compassion of Jesus is identified. He was compassionate to those who were in need both physically and spiritually.

His compassion was more than a feeling of sympathy aroused by the distress of others. It moved Him to act in ways that met the need.

Leaders who follow the example of Jesus, realize the value of a compassionate approach. An awareness of the pressing needs in the lives of others is an important component, but compassionate leaders seek ways to get involved to help meet the need.

Qualities of Leading

The Bible provides a list of qualities for men who would serve in the role of a shepherd.

These qualities are in place to provide the necessary shepherding to keep the church pure and healthy.

While all Christians should strive for the applicable qualities, one does not have to possess all these qualities in order to be qualified to lead others.

Remember, leadership is about influence. We are striving to influence others for the cause of Christ. As a Christian, leading others is built on the blood of our Savior.

The stronger our faith becomes, the more our confidence grows, and the greater our influence becomes.