Edwin Friedman is one of several who discuss concepts associated with a self-differentiated leader. Three main areas stand out.
1) They know who they are: There is clarity about life-goals and they possess strong self-awareness.
2) They are part of the system, but not controlled by it: They rarely get lost in the anxious emotional processes around them.
3) They are able to take stands at the risk of displeasing others: They have the ability to deal with the super responsible and vulnerable.
Spiritual leaders face situations where leadership maturity is needed. The process of developing into self-differentiated leader is a journey to that maturity.