Tag: Hypocrisy

Consistency

July 12, 2024 bobturner Daily Leadership, saltJournal 0 Comments

One of the greatest forms of hypocrisy occurs when parents tell their children to live a certain way, yet not live by the same standard themselves.

I am not saying you must be perfect, regardless of the standard under consideration. However, there needs to be consistency.

Children already push the limits as close to the line as possible and measure every action by the consistency of parental guidance.

We must develop a consistency in approaching how the standard is lived in the home.

When we fail to live up to the standard: admit it, apologize, and make restitution. Do not excuse it…ever!

Trustworthy Character

May 19, 2023 bobturner Daily Leadership, saltJournal 0 Comments

Our culture has a great propensity to act one way, yet at the core be something completely different.

We refer to this as hypocrisy. We need to understand, however, that our culture has worked on this long enough it is now accepted and normal.

Hypocrisy tends to destroy every opportunity to influence others.

The core of our leadership needs to be characterized by integrity, justice, and truth.

These three characteristics highlight a leader worthy of God’s trust and the trust of those who follow. The result points to powerful influence.

People are Watching

April 21, 2023 bobturner Daily Leadership, saltJournal 0 Comments

Remember that “People are always watching.” Children watch their parents. Employers watch their employees. The community watches all of us. Everywhere, people are watching.

They also listen. They listen to our words and watch our behavior to see if they are consistent with what we profess.

Nothing is more damaging to our influence than hypocrisy and nothing more convincing than consistency. Jesus spoke of the need to avoid hypocrisy in prayer, acts of kindness, and fasting.

No other gospel handles hypocrisy like Matthew. The take-away is to know that people are always watching, which emphasizes the need to be consistent with our words and actions.

Congruence

August 1, 2022 bobturner Daily Leadership, saltJournal 0 Comments

Congruence: Compatibility, agreement, balance, and consistency.

Compatibility promotes working together without conflict. This doesn’t mean problems or disagreements go away, but avoiding the destructive nature of conflict builds congruence.

Agreement is shared by leaders when the foundation upon which decisions are made comes from a common standard. Pride, opinion, and agenda driven approaches destroy congruence.

Balance is one of the most important words in leadership. Leaning to the left or the right creates the potential of moving away from the foundation that provides balance for leadership congruence.

Consistency is a virtue. Inconsistency promotes hypocrisy that attacks the congruence leaders need to help others reach the goal(s).

Strong Character

March 11, 2022 bobturner Daily Leadership, saltJournal 0 Comments

Advancing the development of leadership is a task that cannot wait until a future time, and the foundation begins with character.

To strengthen character consider these suggestions.

1) 10-10-10 Principle: As Suzy Welch wrote, we must learn to ask, “Can I live with this decision 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years from now?”

2) Character Audit: Take a values inventory and ask, “What has greater value: Character or money? Character or achievement? Character or popularity?” When inconsistencies exist, change.

3) Challenge Hypocrisy: Regardless of where we are or who we are around, our character must reflect consistency.

These three suggestions strengthen our character for better leadership.

Resolving Conflict

September 7, 2021 bobturner Daily Leadership, saltJournal 0 Comments

The challenges associated with conflict run deep and the resolutions do not come quickly. When conflict arises, what can we do?

1) Embrace the conflict. Conflict allows us the opportunity to learn from and grow through it.
2) Develop consistency. Hypocrisy is destructive, thus a consistent approach is the best start.
3) Listen to all sides. There are at least two sides to every story. Listen completely to both.
4) Respond quickly. Waiting to address conflict produces bitter and incorrect feelings.
5) Invite collective wisdom. Ask others who have faced similar conflict and learn.

This is not an exhaustive list, but with a good start we can find resolution more quickly.

The Principle of Leadership

May 10, 2021 bobturner Daily Leadership, saltJournal 0 Comments

A principle is defined as a basic generalization that is accepted as true and that can be used as a basis for reasoning or conduct.

We find that principles are foundational to leadership. The world around us measures what they see and hear by the profession of our faith.

If the principles by which we proclaim the gospel do not align with an example evidenced by word and deed, accusations of hypocrisy are rightly made.

When these principles do align, they breathe life into our character.

When this happens, lives change and souls are influenced for the cause of our Lord.

Consistent Leadership…

November 23, 2020 bobturner Daily Leadership, Uncategorized 0 Comments

“Do as I say, not as I do.”

One of the greatest forms of hypocrisy occurs when parents tell their children to live a certain way, yet do not live by the same standard.

I am not saying that parents need to be perfect, regardless of the standard under consideration. However, there needs to be consistency.

Children push limits as close to the line as possible and measure every action by the consistency of parental guidance.

The foundation must be laid here. When we fail, admit it, apologize, and make restitution. Never excuse it…ever!

Help children understand the purpose behind the standard and live consistently by it.

Facing Leadership Challenges…

October 29, 2020 bobturner Daily Leadership, Uncategorized 0 Comments

Challenges are an active part of leading. Therefore, it serves leaders well to know how to approach them.

One place to begin is communication.

Google articles on communication in leadership abound. An article from Forbes shares ten secrets about communication in leadership. Let me share two.

1) Speak not with a forked tongue: Communication and character go hand in hand. When leaders demonstrate hypocrisy, people lose trust and will not follow.

2) Speak to groups as individuals: Leaders who establish a personal atmosphere when speaking, build a rapport where a leader is heard.

Check out the Forbes article for more.

Frustrated Leadership…

May 13, 2019 bobturner Daily Leadership, Uncategorized 0 Comments

What is it that frustrates us the most? While the list is endless, here are a few possibilities. 

Incompetence?
Arrogance?
Hypocrisy?
Deception?

Do we get frustrated when we see any or all of the above?

Leadership is not unique when it comes to frustration. Followers get frustrated when they see leadership involved in any of these areas also.

John Maxwell is credited with saying, “Everything rises and falls on leadership.” 

It begins with us as leaders to set the example, providing a standard to follow. We must demonstrate patience and understanding in gently leading others to this standard, not condemning or acting condescendingly concerning their actions.

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