Tag: Relationships

Familiarity

Developing a familiarity between leaders and followers takes time and a process that involves several key factors.

A mutual respect for the life experiences of each other builds a stronger relationship of trust in the common goals and expectations.

Another critical component to familiarity is to share life experiences with each other. The biblical teaching of “weep with those who weep and rejoice with those who rejoice” must be applied.

Create an open door policy that contributes to the approachability of everyone involved. Achieving this task is not easy, but the results bring lasting leadership.

How we address familiarity can hinder or strengthen our leadership.

Reliance

When considering the idea of dependent leadership, a number of words are associated, the primary of which is reliance. Spiritual leaders understand the need to rely upon God. They are dependent upon His guidance, direction, strength, and provisions to lead others.

Spiritual leaders are also aware of the fact that followers are also dependent upon them to provide the same.

Guidance, direction, strength, and provisions are all directly related to the dependence that is associated with our relationship with God and those who fill the role of leading God’s people.

This role supplies all the basic components to our growth in relationship with God and others.

Relational Leadership

The Gospel of Matthew wants us to pay attention and observe. The genealogical record, activity of angels, fulfillment of prophecy, and the involvement of dreams are all significant to the claim of Jesus as the Christ.

Several terms used to describe the work of Jesus as the Christ include: shepherd, ruler, king, light, and healer.

Another is built upon the name, Immanuel––God with us. The true nature of relationships involves being present.

If God left the glory of heaven to be with us––to shepherd, rule, provide light and heal––then we should also recognize that leading others necessitates our being present in all our relationships.

Communication

Google articles on communication in leadership abound. Forbes has an online article that shares ten secrets about communication in leadership. Two of the secrets are significant:

1) Speak not with a forked tongue: When leaders have a reputation that lacks character or one of poor character, people will not trust them. Communication and character go hand in hand in building trust.

2) Speak to groups as individuals: Leaders who establish a personal atmosphere where people feel valued as an individual build a rapport where a leader is heard.

When leaders work to improve communication, stronger relationships will result.

Leading from Peace

While peace is often associated with the cessation or absence of conflict, there is a positive connotation to peace, a wholeness.

Individualism, and its promotion, strikes at the heart of achieving biblical peace.

Compartmentalizing life, defending our rights, and sanctioning violence are only a few of the ways peace is attacked.

Incorporating baptism, edifying one another, admonishing one another, and forgiving one another are ways to support biblical peace.

When peace becomes a way of life there will be the kind of harmony and wholeness that can only be the result of a relationship with God and one another.

Leading with Love

The character of love, as defined by God, is a love that is unmerited, steadfast, suffering, and knows no bounds. It should move us to consider that there is nothing we can do to make God love us more, and nothing we can do to make Him love us less. His very essence is love.

Love is always divinely defined by what is done for others, in this case, you and me.

In a marketing environment that is based on self-interest and one that puts a price on everything (and everyone), cultivating love will require a devotion of our time in building relationships.

This is the essence of leadership.

Communication

Communication becomes critical to the success of building relationships and reaching goals.

Leaders who communicate well are able to articulate the vision, inspire the actions of others, and strengthen the character of an organization to achieve long lasting rewards. This is what communication is all about.

However, the foundation for these areas is built upon knowing the people who are involved in the work, and this requires the ability to actively listen.

If we have any hope of preparing the next generation of leaders, we must listen. Remove distractions, focus on the person speaking, and truly listen.

Consideration

We live in a skeptical world. As such, we tend to question the motive or intention of everyone, including those who deserve our greatest trust.

Leaders must give consideration to the needs of others. At times, these needs are hard to recognize, especially when we are only involved in superficial or surface oriented relationships.

Leaders must dig below the surface to learn what is really needed. They must also consider how to provide for the need that exists.

Consideration should be a part of a leaders daily walk in relationship to others, and doing so exemplifies the compassion of great leadership.

Truthful

The opposite of truthfulness leads in one direction: deception.

Leaders need to not only be truthful in relationship to followers, they need to be truthful with themselves.

Leaders are challenged to be honest enough with themselves to make the kind of decisions that demonstrate integrity.

Being truthful with the direction we should take may not always align with our initial choice.

Being truthful with those invested in following will not allow us to be self-centered.

Being truthful with God will always lead in paths of righteousness.

Be careful not to allow good intentions to validate pretentious actions. Be truthful with yourself, others, and God in all areas.

Emotionally Intelligent Leaders

Based on their book Primal Leadership, Learning To Lead With Emotional Intelligence, Goleman, Boyatzis, and McKee examine five discoveries needed to make an emotionally intelligent leader.

These discoveries involve the following questions:

Who do you want to be as a leader?
Who are you?
Do you work on developing who you want to be, or what someone else wants you to be?
Are you willing to form new habits of practice?
What emphasis are you placing upon developing relationships?

Developing a new mindset and implementing the necessary changes to grow in our leadership is key to reaching goals. Strong relationships help build confident leadership.