Edwin Friedman identified a number of concepts associated with a self-differentiated leader.

They know who they are: There is clarity about their life goals and they possess a great self-awareness.

They are part of the system, but not controlled by it: They can be separate while remaining connected, manage their own reactivity to others, and are less likely to become lost in the anxious emotional processes around them.

They are able to take stands at the risk of displeasing others: As a steward who balances presence and technique, they have the ability to deal with the super responsible and vulnerable.

Equipping leaders under this umbrella provides a greater maturity for spiritual leadership.