Paul’s letter to Philemon regarding the runaway slave, Onesimus, is another great text on resolving conflict. Paul makes several appeals, and each hold significance.
First, he appeals to Philemon’s character, faith, love for the church, and dedication to the Lord.
Second, he appeals for the sake of his self-sacrificing love.
Third, he appeals to the value and worth of Onesimus, not as a slave, but a brother in Christ.
Fourth, he appeals to his own confidence in Philemon to go beyond what Paul asks.
Our conflict with others could be resolved more quickly if we spent a little time making an appeal based on these four areas.